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Due to the ongoing Coronavirus pandemic, almost everyone around the world is required to stay at home, maintain social distancing protocols by staying 6 feet apart from other people and wear face masks when out in public. Non-essential businesses like gyms, malls and salons have closed, causing a massive shift in our day to day lives. Restaurants only offer take-out as dining is no longer an option. Never in my life did I think a virus would cause devastating closures on every single continent, except for Antarctica. Even though the shelter in place order has been in effect in California since March 19th, I still am in shock by this sudden change. It’s insane!

Since our lives have changed and we are no longer able to roam about freely outdoors, it’s understandable to feel anxious, scared, and uncertain about the future. Additionally, there can be a void or feeling of “emptiness.” If you have felt any of the emotions mentioned above, just know that you’re not alone. Yes, I miss going out and getting dinner with my friends, walking along the beach and going on hikes, but I’ve taken this time to really work on myself and see this situation from a positive perspective.

One of the things that I truly enjoy is reading self help books because they teach me new techniques and behaviors that I can implement into my life to change my mindset, achieve my goals, reduce negative thoughts and live a more purposeful life. The 10 self help books mentioned below are some of the best books that I have read. Since they were transformational for my life, I want to share these books with you and I hope you enjoy them as much as I did.

1) Think and Grow Rich 

Author: Napolean Hill

think and grow rich

Although this book was written in 1937, the concepts and principles mentioned in this book still apply today. “Inspired by Andrew Carnegie’s magic formula for success, this book will teach you the secrets that will bring you a fortune. It will show you not only what to do but how to do it. Once you learn and apply the simple, basic techniques revealed here, you will have mastered the secret of true and lasting success. And you may have whatever you want in life.” I found this book to be very easy and straightforward to read. It outlined clear steps to follow with actual examples of people who took those steps to achieve their success. With over 20 million copies sold, it’s no surprise that Think and Grow Rich is one of the most revered self books in history.

love yourself like your life depends on it

At only 68 pages, this short but information packed book is one of the most important books I have ever read. Essentially, this book is a “collection of thoughts on what I learned, what worked, what didn’t. Where I succeed and importantly, where I fail daily. The truth is to love yourself with the same intensity you would use to pull yourself up if you were hanging off a cliff with your fingers. As if your life depended upon it. Once you get going, it’s not hard to do. Just takes commitment and I’ll share how I did it. It’s been transformative for me. I know it will be transformative for you as well.” Kamal offers simple techniques that can be immediately implemented into your life that will help empower you to be the best version of yourself.

3) How To Make Sh*t Happen

Author: Sean Whalen

Do you want to make more money? Do you feel like life is too chaotic and out of your control? Do you struggle to accomplish your tasks? If you answered any of those questions, then this is the book for you! Life is broken into 4 main aspects, also known as Core 4. In this book, Sean Whalen talks about owning up to your problems and taking action to fix them so you can get closer to living the life you’ve always dreamed of. Unlike other books, this one does has some foul language and the font size is extremely large, which makes reading really easy. 

The bright yellow cover, along with the 6,000+ positive reviews, really tempted me to take the leap and purchase this book. I’m so glad I did because it transformed my life. Jen Sincero, a world class coach, divides this book into 27 easy to understand chapters about inspiring true stories, tips and advice, easy exercise, and most importantly, beliefs and behaviors that you can implement to change your mindset and take action. 

5) The Miracle Morning

Author: Hal Elrod

the miracle morning

Out of all the books on my list, this is without a doubt, my favorite. Not only does Hal Elrod talk about techniques to improve your life, but he also teaches you a very important ritual called the Miracle Morning that you can do daily to miraculously transform your life. Seriously! I used to hate mornings and would always sleep in as late as possible. Now, I love mornings because I get to do the 6 practices mentioned in this book: meditate, visualize, read, journal, exercise and say my affirmations. It’s changed my life and I can guarantee that it will changes yours too. 

declutter your mind

Have you ever had negative and toxic thoughts racing through your mind? How about anxious thoughts that prevented you from falling asleep? I know I sure have. Although it’s not possible to rid ourselves of negative thoughts, we can practice mindfulness techniques that can make more room for peace and calmness, while removing anxiety and toxicity from our minds. In this book, you will learn the reasons for mental clutter, the benefit of meditation and deep breathing, and strategies to reduce or eliminate bad relationships. I’m not sure about you, but for me, having any type of negative thoughts impairs me from being as productive and efficient as possible. Thus, this book has taught me valuable lessons to declutter my mind and reduce negative thinking. 

7) Outliers

Author: Malcolm Gladwell


In Outliers, Malcolm Gladwell walks you through a journey highlighting the lives of outliers, individuals who are different from the rest yet achieved tremendous success. The goal of this book is to answer this main question: What makes successful people different from the rest? “His answer is that we pay too much attention to what successful people are like, and too little attention to where they are from: that is, their culture, their family, their generation, and the idiosyncratic experiences of their upbringing. Along the way he explains the secrets of software billionaires, what it takes to be a great soccer player, why Asians are good at math, and what made the Beatles the greatest rock band.”

the 7 habits of highly effective people

“In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, author Stephen R. Covey presents a holistic, integrated, principle-centered approach for solving personal and professional problems. With penetrating insights and pointed anecdotes, Covey reveals a step-by-step pathway for living with fairness, integrity, service, and human dignity–principles that give us the security to adapt to change and the wisdom and power to take advantage of the opportunities that change creates.” The 7 Habits that Covey mentions in this book are: Be proactive, begin with the end in mind, put first things first, think win win, first seek to understand then to be understood, synergies and sharpen the saw. In addition, Covey provides examples to better understand the concepts. 

the life-changing magic of tidying up

As one of the most influential books of the decade, it inspired the new Netflix series to air in 2019. Do you seem to have a never ending stack of papers on your desk or clothes that never seem to be folded? Although I personally keep my room and workspace tidy and neat, I thought I would read this book to see what the hype was about. Marie Kondo is a Japanese cleaning consultant and she introduces the KonMari method, a system of simplifying and organizing your life by getting rid of items that do not bring joy or happiness to your life. If you are ready to clean your house and get rid of items that have been collecting dust or sitting in the closet for years, then check this book out.

I truly love books that teach you how to get rid of negative thoughts, and this one is no exception. In the midst of all the chaos, especially during the coronavirus pandemic, it’s important to understand how to control your thoughts and emotions, so they don’t end up controlling you. Not only is this book well written and easy to read, but it contains an important message that applies to each and everyone of us. The message is simply this: We all have a choice when it comes to our thoughts. This book is packed with powerful information and I’m sure you will love it as much as I did. 

Thanks so much for reading! Let me know if you read any of these books, and what you think. 🙂